A letter to my 16 year old Self


Dear Alison,

Well how do I start this,  I guess you may be surprised that I am writing you a letter.  I just wanted to write a little note to you, maybe some encouragement?  I guess I just wanted to help.

I cannot stop you from making your life decisions, they will make you the woman you become some 21 years later,  I just want to encourage.  I think it maybe somewhat awkward talking to you like this, I mean you don’t even know me but in a weird way you do.  I have been wanting to do this for a while, but time,  being busy, looking after a child, and keeping a home, yeah you read that right, you can now take your mouth off the floor.

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Mama Bear


I have always been fiercely protective of my son, it goes without saying really, he is part of my being, therefore I will protect him.  Call me ‘The Lioness’, ‘Mama bear’, or ‘Mum’ I am a warrior for him..ok I have finished the gladiator rhetoric let me explain. Continue reading “Mama Bear”

Just a quickie!


This is just a quickie! Just to talk about what will be going on with the blog. 
WELL it will still continue in much the same format,  I have to say in the beginning I wasn’t sure what avenue I wanted to take ,  I mean there are millions of blogs online with similar content.

I just thought  I need to be me and the rest would follow.. So I did and in the process  I have had some amazing feedback which I am VERY grateful for x

In addition I bit the bullet and decided to send some work off last year.  I was truly shocked that the pieces  were published  for The online magazine Eeveelife.co.uk  (I will put the links up to my  stuff down below) I am so so so grateful for this opportunity and to God.
Anyway thats enough of the crazy ramblings,  actually it’s not and I will probably write a whole lot more!




Ali xx

What Lies Beneath………

For the last six years I have driven to work, however due to a location change I recently started taking Public Transport namely the London Underground, affectionately known as the ‘The Tube’. Oh the joy I felt not having to deal with Traffic, Pollution, and 4x4s. Friends warned me of the horrors that lurked beneath but alas I did not heed, I was just excited about not having to honk my horn in the mornings and enjoy a ‘relatively’ stress free journey to work. A lamb to the slaughter I tell you, A LAMB TO THE SLAUGHTER. It is not the Journey but the passengers that caused the most shock, amusement, and empathy.

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To be a Child

earth-from-space-1  Earth from Space where we live together… as one Human Body.

The other day I watched my Son approach another little boy and ask if he could play with him.  The other child was a little shy, my Son was pretty persuasive to the point the ice was broken and they played a very excitable game of ‘Hide and Seek’

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‘S Parent’


National statistics of the UK show over 2.0 million homes are Single Parents with dependent children.  In 2011 women accounted for 92% of lone parents with dependent children 8% were Men.

After my separation and divorce I categorised  myself as a mum who lived alone with her child.  I did all the normal things that were expected, you know, check out all the schemes I would be entitled to, looked at any benefits that were open to me, I had long meaningful chats with other ‘S parents’ whom had trodden the lonely road years before, they were able to give me advice and so on.  I gleaned information off the internet, I shouted at the tv when another cut was made by the government regarding Children Services I mean, I did it ALL.

You see I wanted EVERYTHING but didn’t want the label, I didn’t want to be known as a Single Parent, I didn’t even want to utter the word so for a while I regarded myself as a ‘S parent’. I categorised Single parents in the below format.

  • Someone who got pregnant at school (young)
  • Someone who didn’t work and had lots of children
  • Loud mouthed woman with no behaviour and lots of children
  • Someone who couldn’t get their boyfriend to marry them
  • Someone who wasn’t good with contraception

All the above (in my mind) was not me, I mean I was MARRIED and therefore did it ‘Right’ by the church and in societies eyes. I maintained in my mind that at under no circumstances I would be described as a ‘S Parent’.  In conversation with other ‘S parents’ they would use the term ‘Us single parents’ like it was a team or it was some sort of elite status, for me it wasn’t anything to be proud of and I definitely did not ask for that kind of status.  Whenever I heard the S word  it was surrounded with turmoil, heartache, and struggle.  I was far better than that!, or was I ? I mean was I really?

I refused to see the positives of being a ‘S parent’ until I finally woke up and realised my important role.  I cannot deny alot of my feelings came from guilt, I was afraid my son would grow up damaged by only having one live in parent I felt I had failed him.  However it became more and more apparent that my son was happy, happy with his little life, his toys, his friends, family on both side and me as his mum.  I gained confidence as a ‘S Mum’ I spoke with people about my thoughts, I took solace in other ‘S Mums’ whom had trodden the path I was on and had brought up beautiful, intelligent children into adulthood.


By speaking to these women I realised the strength it takes to get up and deal with children by yourself.  Some had support of the father, others didnt.  I was in awe of these women whom wore their Single Mother/Parent status with PRIDE.  The other day whilst  in conversation I described myself as a Single Mum, to the person I spoke with it meant nothing, to me in meant EVERYTHING.

How do you feel about being a single parent if you are?

Are you a child of a single parent family? How has it defined you?

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Miss Ali xx

Like a fine wine..


Do you ever feel nostalgic when a birthday looms? Questions start to come thick and fast, What have you achieved in the year?What could you have done better? What dreams/goals are you one step closer to?

I do it all the time, and this year is no different.  You see I have a birthday coming and I will  OFFICIALLY be over my mid-thirties, and for once I feel good about the prospect of getting older. Over the years I have been able to right wrongs and focus on many aspects of my life that needed tweaking.  Officially (in my mind and another post) I became a Single Parent this has enabled me to  ‘leap out in faith’  I have no time for procrastination having a small child doesn’t allow me to ponder a great deal, I know the impact on any decision I make will effect not only me, but my son.. I just do!

When I reached my 30th birthday I had a total breakdown, it was real, and very scary I found myself frantically leafing through the pages of my 20s, stopping at pages I liked, and trying to burn the ones I didn’t.  I wont deny I wanted my 20s back!, carefree days, lots of money days, years of sitting  around at friends and chatting about everything and nothing days!  I laugh as I write this because it seemed so silly but back then it caused me great anxiety, after fully accepting the new decade that so far has been highly emotional, and fully charged this is what have I learned.

  • Family is Everything
  • Good friends are sent from God that hold you up when you need holding
  • Don’t rush Love
  • Children are a gift (although can be annoying) from God
  • Laugh Freely
  • Save your money
  • Forgive those that have wronged you
  • Not everyone will like you
  • Not all men are bastards
  • Take care of yourself
  • Maintain your dignity through it all
  • Don’t wish for things others have been blessed with your time is coming
  • People will come in and out of your life do not question it enjoy them
  • Trust God

So thats it Bless x

Since you have been gone….


Well here I am…. A Mother, Divorcee, Older, Wiser, Lighter, Stronger,Believer, Happier, Angrier,Thoughtful, Non Bullshitter, Bullshitter, I mean the list  could go on,but I choose not to bog you down with the last 5 years… well not yet anyway  . I decided to blog again because I love to write, I wanted my thoughts down on paper so to speak,  I wanted a place to express and hopefully, maybe somebody would read and think  ” I know where this woman is coming from”.


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I am aware there are a million and one lifestyle blogs similar but guess what? There is now a million and two all of us with a voice, and  a story if you will. So this is where I let you in to my everyday thoughts, comings and goings, outs and abouts, reviews and much more…

So enjoy mon ami enjoy! Like Share subscribe

Miss Ali x



My life changed in September of 2010…..I had a baby.  It had pretty much been myself and partner for 5 years.. alone… then came along our child.  He was perfect in all ways, beautiful smile that would melt a thousand hearts he was everything, just everything.

OK now the reality, there are many things that people do not tell you about having a baby I have compiled a list and will go through the points one by one.

1. Sleep Deprivation

Have you ever not slept for a day? it’s a BITCH isn’t it? well 4 months and counting and im a walking zombie.


Changing nappies

I have no problem with baby urine, its the poo I have a problem with!! you can often hear a ‘discussion’ between myself and then husband as to who will change the poopy nappy.


Body Changes

Listen I wasnt a size 8 or anything but I had a pretty nice stomach 😉 it now resembles the underground map.  “Did you not use stretch mark prevention cream”? I hear you ask? …no evidently.


People telling you what to do

You will be treated like a child, funny that considering you have just given birth to one and you are now considered a ‘Mother’.  They *insert name here* will believe that you have NO IDEA as to what you are doing and that you probably fail without thier help.  I found that I smiled sweetly took their advice and went home with my baby.  At the end of the day you don’t have to take the advice, but don’t be rude when you receive it they are only trying to help.

This is just a snippet into my daily role as a new mum, I could have written so many things but I started to sound to negative about the whole experience.  I wouldn’t change this feeling for the world, in fact I could even touch a pooey nappy for it  xx

For Master love you like Oxtail and Butterbeans (my favourite dish).